Lose weight while you sleep. Earn money while watching TV at home. Take this to become more attractive. Get great abs with one simple step. Tips for a better sex life.
Blah blah blah.
Do you ever get tired of reading headlines like these? I do. The worst part about them? Majority of society totally buy into them – all of a sudden, people read something telling them that their life isn’t complete without A or B, and they believe it. All of it. We keep looking for something that will make us happy. I’ve had great abs (for me) and I’ve tried many a product to “become more attractive.” And I’m still the same person I was before. I mean, neither one made my life complete or gave me some kind of huge fulfilling life experience.
So why, as a society, do we keep chasing the idea of “I’ll be happy (or happier) once I…”
Why aren’t we happy now? What keeps us from being happy now?
Some say that happiness has nothing to do with healthy living. Well…they’re flat out wrong. Your attitude has a direct correlation with your health-mentally, emotionally and physically.
I’ve written about this before and I’ll stand by what I’ve said before – happiness, at any point in life, is a complete choice. Yes, things will happen that can flat out suck. You get a flat tire on your way to work; your significant other breaks things off just when you think things are great; you drop your new phone and crack the screen the first day you use it.
If we’re able to look at the tiny things that happen every day and learn to respond instead of react, chances are that you’ll realize life is not all that bad – you’ve got a roof over your head, you’re alive and breathing, and somewhere somebody loves you.
And because you are alive-because you can breathe-anything and everything is possible. I once heard that because there is possibility for success in every day that the first step towards failure is believing (consciously or subconsciously) that we don’t deserve it/success…every time I hear that I love it even more 🙂
So folks, to continue my little plug about personal happiness and believing that anything is possible, here are some steps to getting there –
Forget the meaning of “can’t” – stop listening to the voices in your head that tell you “can’t” do something or go somewhere or try something new. Let’s be honest, it usually comes when there’s fear involved: fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of having fun. Whatever it is, just say no to fear and forget all the reasons the world (and yourself) say you can’t. If you keep following them, it limits the amount of your life that you actually could be living to a fraction of what it should be. Don’t do that. Let it all go.
Choose to be happy NOW – like I said before, life isn’t a walk in the park. One day you’ll be standing in the sun and the be crashed upon the rocks the next day. Find the good in every situation (because there is always good), no matter how small it is, and focus on that. Start small and accent the positive. Don’t let the things you don’t have spoil the things you do have. You’re breathing. You’ve got a body. You’ve got friends and family who love you. Choose to look at the good. Once you start, it will always be easier each time after that.
Go outside – I do this every day, especially at work. There’s something cleansing about breathing in fresh air, looking at the mountains and stars, watching the waves roll in and out. Stepping outside helps us remember who we are and that our seemingly big problem really isn’t all that big. It also provides you with a renewed sense of determination, calmness and outlook for tackling any obstacles in our day.
Be grateful – say, “thank you” and be sincere. If you’re like me, you might be stuck sometimes by habitual apologizing and thanking that’s lifeless and doesn’t mean anything. Think about how each person is serving you – taking time out of their day to pick you up from the airport, bringing you soup when you’re sick or walking your paper to your front door. Think about how it really helped, and then really thank them.
Pay it Forward – don’t just do this every now and then. See if you can find a way to do this EVERY SINGLE DAY. There is joy that comes with serving others, even in the tiniest of ways. Be aware of others around you and see if you can find ways to pay it forward – if you’re not in a rush, let someone go ahead of you in line at the coffee shop; if you see someone carrying a heavy load, offer to help. Little things every every day will increase your feeling of worth.
Open Your Heart – let people in. Allow yourself to feel the spectrum of emotions that come with making connections and letting people in to your heart. It’s scary, for sure. Everyone deals with the fear of being hurt. It is one thing though that will make your life more rich, more adventurous and more beautiful. Allow others to touch your heart. Allow yourself to open up and love someone with zero inhibitions. After all, a life without love is no life at all.
Laugh, Smile, Breathe and Carry On – Even with all of these tricks to surviving life, there will be times when all you can do is smile, throw you head back and laugh, take a deep breath and keep plugging along. There are a few steps for nailing this here. Believe that you’re strong. Believe you can make it through anything. Believe in random dance parties…and carry on 🙂
When you’re happy, you’re more motivated to be conscious about what you’re eating and not shovel junk into your stomach. You’re also more willing (and wanting) to do some kind of physical exercise. So, yes. Happiness does equal health – it increases it. The healthier you are, the happier you’ll be. A TOTAL win-win that’s worth trying 🙂
Focus on the good you have in your life right now. Be strong and believe in yourself. Stop giving in to those nasty headlines, lift up your head, and carry on.